The Art of French Kissing

1. Introduction

So let's begin first by discussing, what is a French kiss? I found the answer to this question to be very broad, and what might be considered wrong in some places might be right in others. But I did find a somewhat acceptable answer which is, French kissing involves a tongue touching which can be a very sensual and loving act. Usually, it consists of kissing with an open mouth, with the tongue touching the partner's tongue, lips, and teeth, and usually involves the exchange of saliva.

Have you ever found French kissing awkward or embarrassing? Fear no more! This essay will inform you, influence you, and then inspire you to become the greatest French kisser. I found this topic to be very important due to the many little tricks and techniques I found involved in French kissing. It's like over the years people have made it into a form of art, something you can master but never really perfect. So whether you like it or not, French kissing is considered an intimate act and one thing you don't want to do is be the bad kisser. A girl might love everything about you, but once she experiences the bad kisser, it's usually over quickly. You see, there are too many people out there thinking they got it, but simply just don't. Now one thing I would like to clear up is that I am not the self-proclaimed greatest French kisser of all time. I am merely someone with a thirst for knowledge who has researched the topic and made it quite interesting.

1.1 What is a French kiss?

French kissing is one of the most intimate and sensual acts you can share with someone. In a successful French kiss, two people explore each other's mouths with their tongues, and it's an experience that is loaded with erotic and emotional undertones.

When a partner explores your mouth with their tongue, they're not only becoming intimate with you, but with your own personal 'oral terrain', as well as becoming in a way, part of you. It's an act that demands closeness and also sets the tone for more private and deeper levels of intimacy. The French kiss is well known throughout the English speaking world, but for the French of course, it is simply 'kissing'.

Some would say that this kind of kiss is an oversold, overemotionalized and overly glorified act, but there are some important things to remember. Kissing has been described as practice for sex and a way to get close enough to someone to find out what they had for dinner. This may be somewhat true, but it's also quite cynical. A mother kisses her child to make it feel better, lovers kiss, kisses are used to convey a greeting or a farewell and often is used as an expression of gratitude. An elderly couple that can barely walk or move due to the frailties of old age can often manage a firm kiss, and often a peck on the lips or cheek is the best a bashful person can do to show their affection for someone. Kissing is one of the most human things that you can do.

A French kiss can be one of the most memorable experiences in a person's romantic life. A good kiss can stay with you forever, and can certainly light up a dull moment and give you something to smile about. Unfortunately, so can a bad kiss, and there are enough horror stories out there to fill a library of kissing failures.

1.2 Why is French kissing important?

It is of common consent that in our society today, the plea for the race is only a subterfuge to cover sins of amour. Now, in comparison with actual propagation, all forms of excitement of the skin are relatively barren, but undeniably the attraction of a state of mere potential parenthood is stronger than the need to provide amusement for lust which has little object beyond itself. Thus, any means of excitement which absorbs all the instinctive energy and yet provides a catharsis for impulse which might otherwise be mischievous must be accounted to have failed in its role.

The mating of male and female in general is for the purpose of producing offspring and the perpetuation of the species, and in this, it does not differ from the sexual processes common to practically all forms of animal life. To this end, Nature has provided a certain amount of pleasurable sensation to accompany and incite this activity. This is very prominent in the males of most species, but in humans and higher primates, the females also are provided with means whereby both they and their mates are incited to carry on to a far greater extent than is necessary mere propagation.

You have to remember that everything that causes arousal and excitation, especially upon the skin, increases the nervous discharge from the brain and may be dangerous if long continued. This being granted, it is noteworthy that nothing in the way of amour in our Western civilization is quite so exciting as the prolonged, soul-searching French kiss. And this leads us to a brief examination of the important role that this form of osculation should play as compared to other forms of more gross excitation.

1.3 Benefits of mastering the French kiss

The kiss regulates the amount of blood and adrenaline in every person. A quick peck is fine for many, but nothing beats the lingering sensual taste of a French kiss. Done correctly and with passion, there is no doubt that it can increase levels of serotonin and dopamine (TMZ). Serotonin is the chemical that makes us happy and when levels are low, people may become depressed or aggressive. Dopamine is a chemical that stimulates the brain and provides a pounding sensation of euphoria. Low levels of dopamine can result in decreased libido and attention span (About). In a way, it works to remind us that whether we love it or hate it, the French kiss always has a way of gaining our full attention.

While some may keep these meanings in mind when they decide to perfect their kissing ability, there are those that may not have realized that a person's French kissing technique can break or make a relationship. The stereotype of the French being overtly amorous in all things from food preparation to fervent public displays of affection has resulted in a stigma on French kissing. It is taken that because a person is French or related to French culture, they are automatically good kissers. As questionable as this may seem, there is no doubt that a person from a different culture can also be a fantastic French kisser. In fact, the statement may just be true and for any person looking to find out why, they need only to read on.

2. Preparing for a French Kiss

Make sure your partner is comfortable: This may be the most vital requirement of all. A strained or awkward posture can ruin a kiss, plain and simple. If your partner is not already accustomed to close physical contact with you, it might be best to let them set the pace here. Your patience and ability to exercise restraint will show that you are a considerate and mature individual, making it more likely that you will do fine in the end.

Find the right moment: Unless a certain mood has already been established, it is important that French kissing not appear to be a sudden or unexpected leap in the dark. Case the general area for signs that it could be appreciated, but do not mistake this for planning an assault. Think velocity, not vector here. You are not drawing up a flight plan with military precision.

Set the mood: If you and your special someone are preparing for a marathon French kissing session, a little bit of lyrically suggestive music wouldn't go amiss. Any tune with romantic connotations will help to separate French kissing from its more casual, often adolescent, associations with simply getting to first base. It may seem a bit corny, but sometimes corny is good… corny has a lot of potential. Choose a time when both of you are relaxed, and if you're not already within kissing distance, find somewhere private where you can sit or lie down beside each other.

Freshen up your breath: Avoiding foods that leave odours will help to some extent, but there is no escaping the basic oral hygiene check. Twice-daily brushing of your teeth is the minimum requirement, augmented by breath mints and/or chewing gum to accompany those meals where garlic and onions are hard to resist. These are short-term solutions, but once you have used them to kill the bacteria currently causing bad breath, they will help prevent anything worse from moving in.

Oh, how simple life would be if the only thing required of a person prior to a French kiss was puckering up. But, there's another person to consider in the equation, whose enjoyment of the experience should also be important to you. Coming at them with the breath of a thousand and one garlic knots, of course, would rather defeat the purpose. And the fact that you think you're the second coming of Errol Flynn does not necessarily mean you should suddenly grab them mid-sentence for a quick roll in the hay. French kissing can be spontaneous, and developing a skill for it will make it better for both of you, while potentially stronger for your partner. Consider some of the following steps as sort of a warm-up routine, the kind of thing you would do before running a race, or perhaps even more appropriately, before some sort of intense physical conditioning.

2.1 Freshen up your breath

There are many ways to freshen your breath and everyone has their own technique. Make sure to use a technique that works well for you but also yields the desired result on a consistent basis. The worst thing you could do is be over-confident in your technique and have bad breath. Reading this you may think "I never have bad breath", but everyone can improve their breath from its natural state. The bottom line is that if you aren't willing to make adjustments to your routine to ensure fresh breath, then you probably don't take this topic seriously. So here are some ideas to get you started in this journey to fresh breath.

A no-brainer method for fresher breath is to simply brush your teeth. While this is a good start, it does not necessarily guarantee fresh breath. The idea is to not just brush the teeth, but also the tongue, and do so shortly before the kiss should take place. Also, it's a good idea to bring a toothbrush to work/school, so before the kiss you can quickly excuse yourself to the bathroom. What's more, is that you should follow the brushing with some kind of mouthwash to kill most of the bacteria still living in the mouth. Homemade or natural mouthwash is known to be more effective, each from the following can be mixed with a cup of water and used as a rinse: aloe and water, neem and water, or salt and water.

2.2 Set the mood

A simple and casual way to "set the mood" is to take your partner outside and walk around with them in a secluded area, like the woods, a garden, a park or a long walk at night on the beach. It is more romantic than walking around inside, and the change of environment will help transition the mood from whatever you two were previously doing to the task at hand.

If the weather is good, a more intimate way to "set the mood" is to take your partner out for a picnic. Pack some cheese, grapes, bread, chocolate, or any other food that is easy to feed each other and that you both enjoy. Lay down a blanket and light some candles. Talk, feed each other, play with the food. Often, the setting of a picnic can lead to a light and fun (and often flirtatious) food fight. And nothing says "I want to be romantic with you" more than a good old-fashioned food fight. It will make both of you laugh and feel like kids again. And don't forget that after the food fight, this can be an excellent time to initiate a kiss. The playfulness and laughter will make a kiss natural and enjoyable for both parties.

2.3 Find the right moment

How to create perfect moments for your first kiss

To kiss or not to kiss. This is the question. If someone is on your mind and you want very much to kiss them, it is important to take things systematically. To force a kiss upon someone too soon is a date break and most definitely a relationship breaker. The way to initiate a kiss is to create a series of wordless communications that slowly lead to the kiss. The right moment for a kiss is when both people feel attraction and want it. To achieve this bonding of desires, you need to create perfect moments at least two times during separate dates.

Wow! So we all know how perfect moments for kissing feel, but the trick is actually creating them. Kissing is contagious. Once you start doing it with someone, it usually increases in frequency. The first kiss, and each subsequent kiss with a new person for that matter, should come out of the blue. If you first mention "can I kiss you?", it's over. Nothing you do will save that situation. A week later you will tell your friends that you are now dating said person "because they said yes when I asked if I could kiss them". This is not good. A confused and mumbled "hi kisssshhh meeshhhh?" or said with a mouth full of carrots, is also not the best way to go. The way to do it right is to stand close to the person, look them in the eye and pause. They should know what's going on. If they have a look of horror on their face, turn sideways and kiss your cat instead. Assuming that it's looking good, take a risk of a 3-4 second lip movement. A guaranteed kiss on the cheek... who can say no to that one!

2.4 Make sure your partner is comfortable

So, it's finally time to lock lips with your date, but you're not sure whether they're 100% up for it. When is the right moment? While there may not necessarily be a perfect time, there are a few ways to tell if your date will be more likely to accept your advances. Firstly, you should make sure that you're both alone. At a party, for example, it might not be the best time - there's less privacy, and your date may feel pressured to kiss you and then avoid you for the rest of the evening! A better setting would be one that you have more control over, like your place or theirs, and a time when you know you won't be interrupted.

Atmosphere is also very important. When you're setting the mood for your kiss, it's a good idea to get comfortable. If you're sitting at a restaurant or at the cinema, it may not be the most relaxed setting. But if you were to take a romantic stroll or sit in your garden on a warm evening, the mood may be just right. Try to avoid places where there has been drinking - the smell of alcohol on someone's breath can really be a passion killer!

3. Techniques for a Sensational French Kiss

One of the most important things to remember is that there is no end to how you can use your tongue. You can change motions and techniques whenever you please. A French kiss should be a constant game of give and take, show and absorb. Your tongue should reflect what your partner's is doing. If you notice that your partner is trying to push your tongue out of their mouth, give way to them. On the flip side, if your partner's tongue is retreating when you're trying to engage it, be patient and keep trying until you get a response. Always remember that the key to a slammin' French kiss is variety. The more you change tactics, the more things will stay interesting. Also, consistency more than anything is the key to building a complete kiss experience. A French kiss can only be as good as the sum of its parts. This means being concerned with the whole kiss experience, from your go-to technique to the final moments of your kiss.

Once your tongues engage, there's a lot that you can do. Gentle but firm is the best way to describe the pressure you should use with your tongue. You want to make your presence known, but not overwhelmingly so. Try pressing your tongue harder against your partner's. You have to be careful with this one, as it can be interpreted as the lead-in to a wrestling match. At the point where your partner's tongue and yours are in contact, try moving your tongue around in slow circular motions. Also, try switching directions and going back and forth.

To do a French kiss, start by lightening your approach. If your partner appears open to Frenching, slowly move forward and gently brush your lips against theirs. If they're receptive, proceed on. Keep in mind, you might be expected to provide the lead in this area. If you extend your tongue, but your partner doesn't extend theirs, try touching your tongue to your partner's in a feather-like movement. If they respond, try slipping your tongue into their mouth. Don't forget, the whole point of Frenching is to feel good for both you and your partner. Any of the above methods (or anything that's comfortable and pleasurable for you and your partner) is just fine. Basically, you are looking for mutual pleasure and comfort from your kissing union, so it's best to never do anything that doesn't feel right for you.

3.1 Start with gentle lip contact

Lips are still the most sensitive part of the mouth. Using the same principle as closed mouth kissing, start with gentle, light kisses. A good analogy to the way you should be using your lips with your partner's is the way you use them when you are teasing something that you want. You don't want to take it yet, so you put just enough pressure to feel it without actually having it.

Have a relaxed and a little bit of a submissive attitude. The person who is receiving the tongue kisses will be able to best control how much tongue invasion they'd like. Allow the person's lips to part on their own.

When transitioning into open-mouthed French kissing, the first step is to move slowly. This is important because the mouth is highly sensitive and it is unexpected and unpleasant to try to jam your tongue into someone else's mouth. This is often called the "doggy lapping" approach.

3.2 Use your tongue strategically

There are so many simultaneous sensations going on during a really great kiss that it's hard to know just where to start. But I think it's fair to say that your tongue is the workhorse of the kiss. And since we're French kissing here, your goal is to make a subtle statement with your tongue. Let's break it down.

The inner world of your mouth is a delicate place, and so is the personal space of your potential kissing partner. Thus, there is a sort of choreography to using your tongue in such a way that says "Oh yes, this is nice". Start by taking little forays beyond the lips and then, perhaps, very lightly stroking the tip of the tongue using the edge of your partner's tongue. And then retreat. This is sort of like testing the water of a pool to see if it's the right temperature. This is also the greatest level of direct tongue on tongue contact that I will recommend for quite some time. Coming off as too aggressive with the tongue is a common kiss-killer. A good kiss, like good lovemaking, is more like a journey than a race.

Keep your tongue movements slow and purposeful. Think of it as a long and articulate sentence as opposed to a garbled string of mispronounced words. A good comparison is that of two people dancing: there is a leader and a follower, and they must move in synchrony so that each motion feels natural. If your technique is good enough, you might just elicit a soft moan or sigh, which is a kissing jackpot.

3.3 Explore different rhythms and intensities

Now this is where the fun really begins. It's hard to put into words exactly how to vary a kiss. One of the best ideas is to simply follow your partner's lead. A good kisser will pick up on your rhythm and tempo and match that. If your partner is being very intense and somewhat rough, don't start kissing frenetically if that's not your style. Sometimes an overly intense kisser is hoping to get you to show him/her how you like to be kissed, or it's a barometer test to see how much you can handle. If your partner suddenly kisses you slowly and sensually, don't continue at a fever pitch - take note and follow suit. Vary the pace and tempo of your kiss as well as using different amounts of pressure. Firm and consistent can be very good, but never forget to mix things up. Use exaggerated open mouth kisses or almost closed puckered kisses. Try gently sucking on your partner's lower lip and then the upper one. The important thing is to be aware of what you're doing so you can tell what you like best and what's working for your partner.

There are two schools of thought about how long a kiss should last: some say it should be short and sweet, and others think a kiss should last as long as it takes to form a connection. While a long sustained kiss can be great, one that never varies in rhythm or intensity can become a bit monotonous and like any activity that never changes, it can lose its impact. It's better to have a sustained kiss that ebbs and flows in its intensity and is punctuated by teasing kisses to other parts of the mouth and face. This can make a kiss that much more intimate as you're sharing those different moments specifically with someone you really care for.

3.4 Pay attention to your partner's cues

Conversely, if at any point it seems that your partner is lessening the intensity of the kiss, take a moment to give them a few gentle, close-mouthed kisses. This will give you a chance to check in with your partner. You can simply ask "Are you ok?" or "Are you still with me?" These are non-threatening questions that will allow your partner to express any concerns they may have without feeling uncomfortable. It is important to keep the lines of communication open – many potentially embarrassing situations can be avoided if partners are willing to simply express how they are feeling.

When you first start French kissing your partner, begin slowly and gently. This will give you both the chance to get comfortable and get a feeling for each other's kissing style. As the kiss goes on, you can gradually increase the intensity if it seems like that is what your partner desires. Always be aware of how your partner is responding to your kisses. Are they getting more intense? Are they comfortably shifting their body closer to yours? Are they making noises of pleasure? These are all signs that your partner is enjoying the kiss and that you can continue to gradually increase the passion.

In the previous sections, we've outlined several technical aspects of French kissing, but as with most forms of lovemaking, paying attention to your partner's desires is of utmost importance. Without the interest or excitement of your partner, even the most technically proficient kiss will lose its allure. Part of being an attentive lover is having the ability to accurately read your partner's level of interest and enthusiasm. Fortunately, since French kissing is a sensual act, it can be very enjoyable to both partners, and thus it is relatively easy to sense that your partner is enjoying it.

3.5 Don't forget about your hands

When it comes to all the variations of techniques and styles that you can employ in French kissing, the hands are often overlooked, especially considering they are crucial to a well-rounded and sensually fulfilling kiss. Using the hands can add a new level of intimacy and passion to your kiss and can complement all the other techniques. Try and keep your touch gentle and caressing at all times to assure the comfort of your partner and to convey your affection. Begin with an underhand hold of your partner's hand, arm or upper thigh and remember to use light pressure as you stroke these areas. You can also try brushing your hands softly along your partner's face, neck and shoulders. To enhance the romantic mood, try implicitly cupping your partner's face or cradling the back of their head. By touching the ears and hair, you can add an extra dimension to the sensation of your kiss, just be sure to avoid rapid or jerky movements of the head or hands which can be discomforting. Remember to be adaptable and responsive in the use of your hands and never be forceful; when used elegantly, the hands can be the most powerful tool in a truly memorable French kiss.

4. Common Mistakes to Avoid

4.1 Being too aggressive

4.2 Neglecting oral hygiene

4.3 Overusing your tongue

4.4 Ignoring your partner's boundaries

4.5 Lack of communication

5. Enhancing the Experience

5.1 Incorporate gentle nibbling and sucking

5.2 Experiment with different kissing positions

5.3 Add a little bit of teasing and anticipation

5.4 Use your hands to caress and explore

5.5 Don't rush, take your time

6. After the French Kiss

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6. After the French Kiss

After a French kiss is a great time to communicate with your partner about how it was for you. It is important that all feedback you give is positive feedback to help the other person, rather than negative and critical comments. Let them know if you really enjoyed it and how much. If it didn't quite do it for you, let them know it was okay, but give some tips on how you would like it to be better next time and then suggest you try it again soon so you can experience how good it is when done correctly. This helps to keep the self-esteem of both parties and ensures that the kisser can improve their technique for next time.

An important thing to do immediately after a French kiss is show the person some affection. This could be either hugging, holding hands, peck kisses on the lips or cheek, a smile, or just a long stare into the other person's eyes. This really keeps a strong romantic connection between two people after the kiss and is important to distinguish any difference between a friendly kiss and a romantic kiss. This can often be a problem between friends starting out in a relationship. Showing affection lets the other person know you are interested in them as more than a friend.

6.1 Communicate with your partner

It is important to communicate with your partner after the kiss. This is especially true if one of you is beginning French kissing. The experience can be a very vulnerable and sensual act, and sometimes intense. It is important to make sure you and your partner are on the same page from the very beginning. Communicate about your feelings and expectations before the kiss. This can save a lot of confusion and heartache later. After the kiss, it is important to again communicate your feelings about it. Did you like it? Want to do it more? Do you prefer not to do it again? This is important to maintain comfort and safety in your relationship. Next, remember to communicate about your wants and don't wants as far as how much French kissing you want to engage in. Some people like to continue kissing for a long period of time, others find it is more intense and prefer shorter periods of time. Make sure to compromise so that both are comfortable. Finally, always make sure to discuss a negative experience. If at any time in the kiss you felt uncomfortable and did not want to continue, or if you regret anything that happened, communicate this to your partner. This can be hard to do, but it is very important as it can prevent the same situation from happening again. Keeping an open line of communication can make sure that your French kissing experiences are always positive ones.

6.2 Show affection and appreciation

Affection can also be shown in various physical forms. Caresses and hugs are always nice, as is some innocent PDA. For the more amorous couples, just about anything can lead to a make-out session and an opportunity for French kissing. Always remember to create a comfortable atmosphere when trying to be affectionate. If you are getting physical after a stressful day, first unwind and create a more relaxed mood so that affection is based on love and not physical desire. In regards to romantic situations, often the element of surprise can be the most affectionate. Writing a love letter and reading it to your partner is sure to warm his/her heart, and a surprise candlelit dinner will definitely score major affection points.

Expressing love through words often comes easy. Compliments, "I miss you" (in any language), and "I love you" will suffice, but expressing love in other ways takes a bit of creativity. Use inside jokes and shared memories to create a sense of intimacy through your conversation. Reminisce about your first kiss together and how your heart was racing, by entailing as much detail as possible you will simulate the feeling you had during your first kiss! And whenever you must leave one another, always go in for a long and passionate goodbye kiss; that is, after all, what French kissing is all about.

During moments of maintaining unpredictable behaviors, love and passion often quickly die. Expressing language enriches a catalyst by effectively incorporating plays of affection. Affection play is a fun, light, non-trying way to express love and fondness, diverting any serious undertones that can lead to pressure. Play also can DIY projects. By completing tasks that require cooperation, i.e. cooking a romantic dinner, assembling furniture, or planting a garden, you'll solidify the teamwork necessary for sustaining a healthy, balanced relationship. Personal challenges are another good way to keep things interesting. Try having a bet related to a sporting event; the winner gets a full body massage and a romantic kiss. A good mix of play and challenge will keep things light, fun, and interesting while effectively expressing love and affection.

6.3 Reflect on the experience

Of paramount importance is the need to establish how the kiss was received and if it is a reflection of the emotions and fondness you hold for your partner. Often it is only through a kiss that we may gauge our partner's true feelings and "vive la difference" has been the verdict for many an international liaison. A previous girlfriend of the author once said "You know if a Frenchman really loves you because he kisses you on the eyes" and so she was somewhat dismayed to discover he had a torrid affair with a girl from Kentucky.

Hopefully the kiss was an expression of feeling and there are emotions to be shared, either good or bad. If it was a bad kiss, commiserate with your partner but don't be too serious about your findings. Laurent of Paris tells us "It is better to kiss someone than to not kiss someone," and I tend to agree. If the kiss was satisfying and propelled your heart and spirit into an explosion of poetry and song, then this is a time of celebration. Extol the virtues of the moment with your partner through laughter, smiles and further tender gestures.

Reflect on the experience is the step that follows an intimate encounter when the lips have produced saliva and the noses have exchanged some air. This is the time to ponder the emotions and feelings aroused in both yourself and your partner. Think about the mood and the context of the kiss; where and why did it happen? Was it an impulsive gesture of affection or the height of a highly charged romantic date?

7. Conclusion

Even though it is important to know how to French kiss, you should always be yourself. In the beginning, it is common to copy other people, but once you get to know what you are doing, it is better to be original. Your French kiss can be just as much an expression of you as any other part of your personality. French kissing should be an enjoyable intimate moment with your partner, so do whatever it takes to ensure that the moment is pleasurable for both of you. So take your time, explore, and enjoy the wonderful world of French kissing!

Finally, learning to French kiss is an evolutionary process. Learning the various techniques, experimenting with different styles, and practicing on a regular basis are the key elements. As with any art form, there is no right and wrong way to French kiss. The most important thing is to find what is comfortable and pleasurable for both you and your partner. Educate yourself by trying other methods described here or even methods that you have heard from others. Just remember that practice makes perfect.

7.1 Final thoughts on mastering the French kiss

At present, here is something to consider... French kissing involves huge closeness since you are capable of intermingling your tongues together. Yet, the handing out of saliva is a hazard to that exclusive closeness. It is a proven fact that women have a superior capability to produce saliva than men. So, men take caution and do not hand out additional saliva. If you think that you might be drooling, take a moment to wipe your mouth and start again. Excessive drooling is a non-sexual turn off, especially if you are a male.

Get it out of your head that there is a single "reliable" technique to kiss with. Kissing is an individual expression. You must dynamically "examine" how your spouse kisses (not reflect on it) and permit your kisses to be flexible with each other, rather than attempting to enforce one fixed approach each time. You will discover this a lot more enjoyable!

7.2 Enjoy the journey of discovering your own style

All good things must come to an end, and so it is with this essay on French kissing. I hope that I have given you a few new insights on the art form and some good memories (or future dreams!). If I had to sum it up in one thought, it would be to say that the epitome of a great French kiss is sharing a great connection with someone and maybe even deepening it while having a thrilling, comforting, and sexy experience. The key to getting there is to understand that it's less about following steps or using 'techniques' than it is about being comfortable in the moment and expressive with both yourself and your partner. Everything else flows from that, and you will find your own way. I'm hesitant to call it a 'style' as that seems too contrived. You might find that your way changes with each person, and this is a good thing. It's keeping that sense of discovery and adventure and bringing it across to a partner that makes for a truly amazing make-out session. So enjoy yourself, keep an open mind, and happy kissing.